Episode #152: Personalizing a New Construct

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Present Notes

Greatest issues Elsie did in her Nineties dwelling:

-Including a lot of wallpaper

-Including classic, antiques, outdated lighting fixtures, and eBay finds 

-Eradicating signature Nineties options (a lot of carpet, overkill of can lights)

-We point out Episode #42: Oops, I’m Moving Again and Episode #107: Cheap Old Houses

Elsie’s wallpaper sources:

-Right here’s a photograph of the rainbow bookshelves in Elsie’s previous home:

-Elsie’s fortune cookie frame

-Try Elsie’s favourite Etsy artist, Janet Hill

-When you have pets, we advocate Folex Instant Carpet Spot Remover

-Right here is the mansion on the beach photo in Goldie’s room.

–These are the frames that flip up for art work which can be in Elsie’s kitchen. You can even make your individual utilizing this DIY!

-Try the weblog publish Where to Buy Cute & Affordable Wall Art Online

-Learn the weblog publish How to Start an Art Collection

Methods to deal with a friendship breakup in your 30s

-Make house for what’s coming subsequent.

-Do not forget that some friendships come and go in several seasons of your life.

Elsie’s household meals to make FAST: 

Emma’s household meals to make FAST: 

-Try the weblog publish Easy 30-Minute Dinner Recipes

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Episode 152 Transcript

Elsie: You’re listening to the A Stunning Mess podcast. I lately completed renovations on our Nineties dwelling. This week, I’m sharing all the most effective renovations that we did to offer it character and character. We’re additionally chatting about friendship challenges in our thirties and our favourite fast household meals. So we had the most effective week collectively.

Spending Time Collectively

Emma: Sure. Sure. Tomorrow I’ll have been right here a complete week and there was sooner or later we went to spend time with Trey’s sister as a result of she additionally lives close to Nashville in order that was actually enjoyable. However yeah, I’ve simply been up in your home for every week. The cousins have been taking part in collectively simply child Oscar, child Oscar, child Oscar. 

Elsie: It’s so cute. Yeah. They’re just about simply following him round the home 24 hours a day and ensuring he doesn’t put issues in his mouth and it was magical. We had a number of enjoyable and I’m actually grateful for this, a complete week is a very long time so it was good. 

Elsie’s Home Story

Emma: Yeah. It was very enjoyable. So that you completed your renovation. So let’s verify in on the home. So when did you purchase this home? 

Elsie: Okay, so I’m so enthusiastic about this episode as a result of it’s like renovation replace time and we completed a bunch of stuff whereas we have been on our break this summer time and I didn’t even put most of it on Instagram so it’s like shock, shock, bing, bing, bing if you happen to care about renovations. Okay. So we purchased the home two years in the past. It was throughout 2020. It was the tip of 2020. There’s a complete episode about this again prior to now. It’s known as Oops, I’m Transferring Once more. 

Emma: Nice title. 

Elsie: I do assume it’s top-of-the-line titles we’ve ever had and likewise What to Count on When Emma’s anticipating. I used to be additionally actually happy with that one in any case. Okay. So we moved right here and the explanation why, within the quick model, is as a result of we had simply purchased a home proper earlier than the pandemic began and it was a lot too small for our household, however we had been planning to construct onto it and do all these items. Then as soon as that began, we felt like that was not a sensible choice anymore and never one thing we might deal with. So one night time I used to be simply crying and I used to be like, let’s simply transfer to an even bigger home. My husband was like, undoubtedly not. Then every week later, it’s all the time every week later or a month later he was like, okay, nice let’s simply transfer. 

Emma: You gotta give individuals time to consider issues. 

Elsie: So yeah, we discovered this home and we solely checked out two homes. It was within the tremendous low stock time. There’s solely two homes that match our specs in any respect. We have been fairly certain we have been gonna get the opposite one. This home was like, it was a bit overwhelming. It was a bit bit greater than we wished or wanted. It was simply type of like ton of tile, a ton of beige carpet, simply a number of rooms and a number of partitions that have been fully clean. Prefer it was a Nineties new construct that by no means from what I can inform, received up to date in any means on the within, nevertheless it had a pool and it was my quarantine dream so we ended up transferring right here. I’ll say in hindsight now that it has been greater than two years, I discovered a lot, this was in all probability my largest studying expertise in a home ever. So for that, I’m so grateful. However for anybody who is considering shopping for a brand new construct after which simply reworking it to appear like an outdated home, I do wanna warn you that it’s tougher than you assume and costly, and likewise simply tedious. Like, we just about did nothing however renovate this complete two years and my husband is over it. We needed to come to a stopping level in order that’s the place we at the moment are. 

Emma: So that you’re there?

Elsie: We’re at that stopping level. 

Emma: You’re on the end line. I wager it feels good. 

Elsie: I did make some compromises and I didn’t end all the things I assumed I’d. I simply determined to not on some issues. 

Emma: Nicely, life’s stuffed with compromises. 

Elsie: Sure. Life is filled with compromises and I feel pivoting on your house renovation is type of important. 

Emma: You gotta preserve it unfastened as a result of it’s a giant undertaking. I really feel like a very small undertaking can go based on spec, however like large ones, you type of need to have that wiggle room. Anyway, so possibly let’s speak concerning the prime 5 issues or one thing alongside these traces that you just did to the home that you just really feel like made it, that outdated home really feel to you and comfortable and all of the issues that you just wished that you just didn’t have it first.

Elsie: Okay. Once we first purchased the home, the entire backside stage was massive beige tile and it was very like echo-y. There was not one single curtain in your entire home so it felt very, identical to undressed. Like simply very bare. If you should utilize that phrase a few home after which the upstairs was fully carpeted and the footprint is identical. So it’s like half of the home was simply beige carpet. One of many first issues that I wished to speak about is what we took away from the home to make it look much less nineties earlier than I speak about all of the issues that I added to make it go along with my private aesthetic as a result of you can also make it any aesthetic, clearly. I wished, like I really like outdated homes, I wished an outdated home and it wasn’t within the playing cards for us on this space. So I made a decision to create one, which was an awesome inventive problem. So the primary one is that I removed virtually all of the carpet. I say virtually as a result of we did determine to maintain the carpet in our film room as a result of it was a really, what do you name it? Low pile when it’s like not very fluffy. 

Emma: That sounds proper. 

Elsie: Extra like a carpet you’d see in an workplace constructing and fewer like a carpet you’d see in a home from the nineties if that is smart. I’m not a carpet knowledgeable, however we saved it in that one room as a result of my husband’s, he’s in music and stuff and he wished it to have like a sure sound. So it was like a sound issue factor. Truthfully, our canine, we had an aged canine final 12 months who handed and she or he had some loopy accidents in there on the carpet, which is beige or white and it’s the freaking Folex. Have you ever heard bloggers ever speak about Folex, the spray? It’s like a miracle. 

Emma: Yeah. We used to make use of it. We had an aged pug too earlier than he handed. He had a number of accidents.

Elsie: I can’t imagine how significantly better it’s than another spray I’ve ever tried. So undoubtedly if you happen to’re an individual with carpet in your home, get that Folex. It really is absolutely legit. So after we first moved in, we just about instantly, I feel it was like a month after we moved in, we booked the flooring for the upstairs. In order that they took all of the carpet out and we went to Missouri for every week or so they usually put in wooden floors. I’ll say that I feel flooring are one of many simpler issues you are able to do to your home. Do you agree with that? 

Emma: I feel it relies on who you’re working with as a result of some individuals could possibly be actually gradual. 

Elsie: They’re excessive impression and prefer it’s costly, nevertheless it’s not soul-crushing like some initiatives are. I really feel prefer it makes simply such a high quality distinction. I imply, most individuals favor wooden floors. I do know somebody’s like no. 

Emma: Yeah, I feel most individuals do. Yeah, I feel so. I imply, it relies on the house, however yeah. Like some individuals may need them in bedrooms. I imply, you saved some within the film room you’re saying so I feel there’s some areas, however usually, yeah. I feel individuals, like wooden floors.

Carpet and Can Lights

Elsie: I did get to expertise what it was wish to have the carpet all over the place and if you happen to find it irresistible, like, I really like that for you, however I wouldn’t need it. It was within the halls and all the things so it was actually type of all over the place. Anyway, so yeah, we added wooden to the entire upstairs. So we had an enormous quantity of canned lights, like recess lighting, just like the flat lighting the place it seems to be like a bit can caught up in your ceiling. I do know individuals name it by totally different names. So we had like an enormous, large, large quantity. I’ve gotten probably the most conflicting recommendation and opinions from Instagram and from even my mates about whether or not or not you need to have them in any respect, or you need to have a traditional quantity, like a small quantity of them, possibly a minimal quantity, after which a considerable amount of them. So I feel you simply have to seek out the place you match on that spectrum. For me, if I used to be constructing a house from scratch, I can confidently say I’d go zero. It’s simply not my type of lighting and I simply favor different lighting. 

Emma: I can’t wait so that you can see what number of can lights we put in our home that we’re renovating proper now. It’s greater than zero.

Elsie: Okay. However I’ll say for this home, I used to be attempting to renovate it, for myself design clever, however with a resale mindset relating to sensible, useful issues. Which I feel is all the time good. For those who can, only a stability. So I did preserve some, we minimized them. 

Emma: You probably did have an extreme quantity. It was type of wild. 

Elsie: I’ll present an image within the present notes for anybody who doesn’t imagine me, however even in every bed room, there can be six to 9 can lights in a bed room that additionally has a chandelier. Now we’ve 4 in every bed room. So, that’s type of what I’m saying once I say we decrease them. If I used to be constructing from scratch, I like that outdated homes don’t have them, so I in all probability would keep away or keep minimal. Then aside from that, we did eliminate among the beige tile within the downstairs and we changed a few of it with wooden, which was a very, actually arduous resolution between me and my husband. He felt that the tile was like this pool pleasant factor and I felt that wooden can also be simply as pool pleasant if you happen to wipe up the water, which we all the time freaking would. So we type of simply went round about it for some time, however after we put down the wooden, which was type of like, I’d say three-fourths of the downstairs. He does actually prefer it now and he feels actually good concerning the resolution now. So I feel it gave the house a significantly better really feel. So the subsequent factor I wanna speak about are the bookshelves. 

Bookshelves

Emma: So these are stuff you added? Now we’ve moved on to stuff you’re including into the home. 

Elsie: Sure. I’m gonna speak about bookshelves. I’m gonna speak about wallpaper and I’m gonna speak about classic stuff and artwork. In order that’s the desk of contents for what’s to come back. So after we first noticed this dwelling, there’s so many clean partitions. I knew that I wished to place a number of bookshelves as a result of in our earlier dwelling, you guys may keep in mind the rainbow bookshelf, I’ll put an image within the present notes. It was my first floor-to-ceiling bookshelf, and I liked it. It took a clean wall in a room that wasn’t getting a number of like play. It was simply type of a boring wall, by no means received in a photograph ever. Then abruptly it was just like the bell of a ball. It simply was so particular. It was on the duvet after we did the mother and father’ journal cowl. It was utilized in a number of images. I do know it’s in Alyssa’s guide. I do know it’s within the domino guide. Rainbow bookshelves modified my life and I really received into books lately. So after we moved right here, I had simply watched Knives Out. I’ve a quota to fill that I’ve to say Knives Out in each episode of our podcast.

Emma: We’re apparently tremendous followers. 

Elsie: So I used to be like, what number of bookshelves and likewise fireplaces can I match on this dwelling? So I made a decision loads. So we added them on this room we’re sitting proper now’s Jeremy’s studio, which is the dimensions of, I’d say a superb dimension bed room. It’s type of a squarish room although. It’s not lengthy, it’s sq.. He has bookshelves that go all the best way round, which we did that as a result of on this dwelling we didn’t do any soundproofing. However we found that books will be like a type of a sound diffuser and sound actually good. Hopefully, you’re listening to this podcast and should not like, oh, it sounds horrible, really. So they give the impression of being cool. It sounds good. It’s actually cozy. We might undoubtedly do that once more. And we might undoubtedly advocate it to anybody who needs to do a finances music studio as a result of it really works properly. Then the subsequent one we did was the massive inexperienced cabinets in our front room. We determined to place a floor-to-ceiling bookshelf in the lounge as kind of like an accent wall. There’s a hearth within the heart after which to 1 aspect, you’ll see the house theater room, after which to the opposite aspect is a big bookshelf. It’s so large you can’t go to the highest with out, I imply, I just about simply climb up on just like the countertop a part of it each time however you would wish a ladder if you happen to wished to achieve the highest. That one, I really feel prefer it modified the room possibly greater than any of the opposite renovations. I’m simply gonna put the earlier than and afters, I suppose, within the present, you need to see it to imagine it. Then the final bookshelf scenario that we did is I noticed this one image on Pinterest of a bookshelf eating room and it was like a hearth lit and it might by no means exit, an unquenchable burning want for a library eating room. 

Emma: I find it irresistible. 

Library Eating Room

Elsie: So we determined to do the library eating room and we had already added this arch, which is so unhappy as a result of it was the dimensions was flawed as a result of the arch was means increased than the doorways, by the point we put within the doorways and stuff and I used to be like, oh no, that’s not gonna work anymore. It simply all seems to be bizarre. Our eating room desk seems to be like dollhouse furnishings after we first put it up, like I’m telling you this scale points have been bizarre. So I used to be a bit bit nervous about dropping house as a result of when constructing out the bookshelves on three partitions, we did lose about a few ft from both sides and in order that was a bit bit like, is it value it? However I can say now, like 1000000% I’d do it once more. We additionally added a bit fake fire and a few sconces across the bookshelves, that are nice lighting everytime you need one thing type of dim, and bookshelves with cupboards beneath. So what I retailer there may be like my classic buying stuff. So it’s like a spot the place I can gather much more random stuff, which makes me so glad. So the library eating room was undoubtedly, I feel a turning level for our home as a result of we used a classic fire mantle that we discovered on the flea market after which kind of constructed, it was type of like Frankenstein fire as a result of we received one piece of it, however then they needed to construct the remainder to match. By the point it was executed, I’d say it’s my favourite room, and the renovation I’m probably the most happy with as a result of it had so many doubters and Jeremy tried to speak me out of it actually, actually arduous as a result of I get it, like, why do you wanna spend a lot cash on bookshelves in a eating room? It doesn’t completely make sense, however for this home, for this eating room, it identical to wanted one thing to make it really feel cozy and so it labored. 

Wallpaper

Emma: Let’s speak about wallpaper. I’d say that’s an enormous factor in your home. If anybody who’s ever walked by it, like I’ve, there’s identical to a lot of totally different wallpapers. A few of it’s like simply on the partitions or half the wall. There’s a number of areas the place it’s on the ceiling which is a enjoyable characteristic. So how do you decide wallpaper? What’s your take care of wallpaper, man? 

Elsie: For this home, I picked virtually solely conventional wallpaper. The primary wallpaper that I received actually impressed by is the one in my workplace and it’s a Hugo and West wallpaper. I picked it as a result of it like, had like this little little bit of Gucci feeling about it so I’ll hyperlink within the present notes all of the wallpapers with the images. So you possibly can see what they appear like as a result of um, remembering all of the manufacturers and stuff off the highest of my head isn’t straightforward. I stayed with principally conventional floral wallpaper, however all of them really feel actually totally different. They’re not all the identical. After which we’ve one which we haven’t actually proven but. There’s a bit like kind of like touchdown room on the prime of our stairs and it connects to our hallway and our important bed room and the child’s secret library. And in that room, we did this darkish inexperienced, I feel Morris and Co wallpaper and it’s on the ceiling too. I name it my vampire room as a result of it truly is so moody. I’ve by no means executed a room this moody earlier than.

Emma: It’s very moody. I don’t know. I heard you say vampire room and I used to be like searching for like bats within the wallpaper or one thing or like eyeballs or one thing as a result of it doesn’t actually really feel spooky. It simply feels very wealthy, like velvet, you realize what I imply? 

Elsie: That’s good. After which we lastly did the entryway ceiling, which was kinda like a, I imply it’s a giant look. I feel it turned out actually cool. It’s undoubtedly like, in all probability like the most important assertion that we did in the home.

Emma: The factor I observed loads with that space, the entryway is the wallpaper on the ceiling seems to be stunning, nevertheless it additionally makes that chandelier stand out extra. I really feel like if it was a white ceiling, I wouldn’t discover the chandelier as a lot, or it wouldn’t be as seen and it’s actually fairly chandelier. So I don’t know. I used to be like, oh, I by no means actually thought of it, however yeah, in the identical means, like a painted ceiling would try this. I really feel just like the wallpaper does it, nevertheless it additionally type of felt like an outfit the place you see somebody who has some type of cool pants on and a really patterned shirt. And also you’re like, oh, I wouldn’t put that collectively, nevertheless it seems to be superb. It seems to be type of like that. 

Elsie: Thanks. I’m actually enthusiastic about that. I feel it turned out actually cool and that exact sample I’ve, like had this like obsession with it for therefore lengthy and I’ve all the time wished to make use of it. And I actually love the way it turned out. Within the powder rest room, we did a paneling wall that goes up about three-fourths of the best way, after which we left the highest half and it’s an irregular ceiling. So it’s like a ceiling with three partitions after which a sloped wall if that is smart. Like three straight components and a sloped half. So it type of wanted like there’s sure patterns that make irregular formed rooms, like actually forgiving. That’s what I utilized in my workplace as properly. They work very well for like nineties structure. It’s kinda bizarre. Then you definitely simply see the wallpaper and also you don’t see anymore, the like bizarre angles. So yeah, I used a type of patterns and I really like the way it turned out. I used to be like, very proud of it and it’s type of like, I really feel prefer it’s a bit extra of a coastal vibe than among the different rooms.

Emma: Your lighting fixtures are.

Gentle Fixtures

Elsie: Yeah. We used the Stray Canine Designs lighting fixtures, after which I used a ratan trying shade. Then identical to with the white beat board and stuff, it simply type of appears like, I don’t know, very reverse. I ought to make a video. Probably the most reverse of the way it was after we first moved in as a result of that room was very dungeon and darkish.

Emma: Sure. I used to hate that rest room plus it’s such excessive ceilings in there and it’s like this lengthy rectangle so it was simply actually like a bizarre room. And now I really feel like the place you probably did the like three-fourths beat board after which the wallpaper, it simply breaks it up visually. It type of additionally in a bizarre means, made the ceiling really feel a bit bit decrease, however in a great way. 

Elsie: Thanks. 

Emma: So it’s very nice. 

Fireplaces

Elsie: Ought to we speak concerning the fireplaces?

Emma: Sure. What number of fireplaces do you could have and what number of of them are actual and what number of of them are pretend?

Elsie: Okay. So after we moved in the home had one fire in the lounge that’s actual, and it nonetheless has that one fire in the lounge that’s actual however we did need to redo it as a result of it received destroyed after they have been demoing the tile. Which I wasn’t planning on doing. It turned out to be stunning, however so costly. Then I added just a few fake fireplaces. And I nonetheless would add extra if I had the prospect to be sincere as a result of they make me so glad. So we added one in our bed room. So our bed room simply particularly had a number of unused house and we knew we didn’t want extra furnishings. It wasn’t the furnishings. It was simply type of like, and there was scale points. 

Emma: It’s a wild bed room. I’ve by no means seen a bed room that large.

Elsie: And it’s a bit bit sq.. 

Emma: So it makes it like, there’s type of no motive, I really feel like there’s instances you see a bed room and it’s large and it’s like, oh, properly, it’s type of linked. It Virtually has a hallway that’s main someplace, however yours is rather like a giant empty field with tremendous excessive ceilings and there’s simply nothing happening in there. 

Elsie: I’ve seen a number of bedrooms the place you could have room for like a settee and a espresso desk and a TV and whoa, whoa, whoa. However this room doesn’t even have room for any extra furnishings, however it’s large. So we added a TV and we might put chairs there. We simply favor to not as a result of we’re not sitting there however you could possibly simply have chairs. We’ve put them there typically after which it has a dresser after which, the mattress and the bedside tables, however then there was simply this complete different wall. So we determined to have a pretend fire. And I discovered this arts and crafts fire on Pinterest that I identical to fell in love with and so we identical to emulated it precisely. So it’s a classic fire they usually made it look, I’d say fairly near the true factor. We used the type of tile the place it’s like has a bit little bit of shade variation so it’s like among the items are white and among the items are like a bit bit grey and a bit bit beige, however that was in all probability I feel the only option for the bed room. After which aside from that, we paneled the ceiling, which actually helped the sensation of the room to only really feel extra cozy. Like a paneled ceiling. I discovered once I first confirmed Ting, what I wanna do the home he’s like, you can’t panel this many ceilings. It’s like too costly and also you don’t want it. He’s like decide three. So we picked, however to date we’ve solely executed one, however we thought possibly we would do it within the kitchen. After which we picked the bed room as a result of the bed room identical to the ceiling is type of like a press release, nevertheless it didn’t look good. So it seems to be so good now it’s in all probability my favourite ceiling on the earth. Sure. Oh my God. I’m so excited now to love take all as a result of it will encourage me to love take all my footage.

Emma: I do know you need to present it as a result of individuals might be like, present me it. 

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Elsie: Sure. Okay. So the subsequent factor I wanna speak about is like including classic antiques, outdated lighting fixtures, eBay finds, and stuff like that.

Classic Particulars, Paintings, and Extra

Emma: So I consider this as just like the small stuff. You already know, like if you happen to have been to maneuver, you’d take these items with you. I suppose you could possibly take a pretend fire relying if it’s like actually built-in or not, however like bookshelves, issues like that you just’re not taking that with you. Wallpaper, you’re not taking that with you. 

Elsie: Our fireplaces are undoubtedly completely mounted.

Emma: Yeah. Yours are like in place. 

Elsie: Yeah, the sunshine, I imply, I wouldn’t take a lightweight fixture, however you could possibly all the time swap if you happen to wished to. The vintage gentle fixture I discovered that we used is within the youngsters’ library and it’s a cathedral chandelier. Is that what it’s known as after they do the type of crazy factor on the backside?

Emma: I consider it as a Titanic chandelier myself, you realize, the film Titanic 

Elsie: Titanic chandelier . Yeah, that’s a superb description. It’s so sparkly. The solar hits it each night time at a sure time. It’s simply so magical. If I might do my complete home in classic lighting fixtures, I’d like to, however I feel., I imply, they’re such a giant time dedication to love supply them, after which they’re not returnable and there’s a number of threat related to them. Typically you need to get them rewired. So I feel choosing a pair for me was like I received the texture of it with out doing all of them and going too deep in.

Emma: Yeah. Ting was like decide three. 

Elsie: I feel that for my Enneagram seven, the decide three is sweet once you are available with this large listing, that’s a superb methodology. Yeah, I undoubtedly assume I’ve purchased probably the most eBay stuff of my complete life since we moved right here as a result of I’m like accumulating these little brass bugs. Sure. There’s some like ladybugs and frogs and I did get so impressed by Knives Out. I simply wished to have like, simply that like each room appears like a priceless assortment. However it’s like priceless since you might by no means discover it once more. You may by no means replicate it once more. Anybody should purchase a chair from Serena and Lily, which is superb, however not anybody should purchase this sure, you realize. For those who take the time to discover a velvet chair on eBay, then it’s like certainly one of a sort or basically. 

Emma: Yeah. Or discovering it the place it identical to matches your house completely. Like you could have one little brass butterfly factor on the finish of the bookshelf that identical to matches the house completely or no matter. In order that, after which I additionally simply assume there’s a sense of like, oh, this has been not simply thoughtfully curated, however like, it takes time to love put collectively issues like that. Everytime you take a look at a catalog, that’s like all one model. The rooms don’t look curated in that means as a result of it’s all one model’s furnishings they usually really don’t wanna put a bunch of bizarre stuff in there as a result of then it could in all probability pull focus. They need you to deal with simply their objects and once you stroll right into a home like that, it’s actually tidy however I feel your home feels very reverse of that. It’s like, you realize, issues come from throughout and from a number of totally different eras and simply have a vibe. It’s received a vibe. 

Elsie: Thanks. That’s the finest praise. I feel that’s one thing that you are able to do on any finances as a result of we did begin thrifting the primary day I received my driver’s license and the stuff that we’d discover thrifting again then within the nineties, it’s simply as cool because the stuff that now I spend means an excessive amount of cash on eBay shopping for. So I feel if you happen to’re keen to place within the hours, and there’s all of the people who find themselves obsessive about Fb market, property gross sales, like all of the issues. I feel I’ve stated that like 1,000,000 instances on this podcast, however I do assume it’s the primary means you can get an costly trying dwelling that’s like simply your type on a small finances however the time dedication is big. However for me, I really like that. I really like accumulating stuff and I really like analyzing and studying concerning the historical past and I feel it’s enjoyable. For me, it’s identical to a pastime and I feel accumulating classic stuff is a good pastime. 

Emma: Oh yeah. Positively. 

Elsie: Once we had Elizabeth from Low cost Previous Homes on the podcast, I requested her, what’s one of the best ways to get an old-looking home if you happen to even have a brand new home, like what will we do? She informed me the primary factor is simply shopping for classic and I actually do. I’ve lived it now and I can identical to testify that’s the primary factor. I feel it’s so particular and it’s tremendous enjoyable. I really feel such an even bigger bond with my classic collections that I do with anything I personal. So I feel it’s actually particular. Ooh, we’re gonna speak about artwork. So when Emma first received right here, I had a desk stuffed with frames and I used to be like attempting to love put all my artwork, like I had simply gone and eventually received all of the frames, identical to accumulating prints for a few years,  however in a pile in my workplace. So I lastly received the frames and I used to be like, I’m gonna end this. So I figured that I ought to in all probability like hurry up and hold them as a result of she has a bit child that’s crawling round. 

Emma: He undoubtedly like was knocking over among the like frames right here and there. So it’s like, oh, I’m sorry. That is what he does. He’s . He’s very . 

Elsie: However he helped me a lot as a result of I’d’ve overthought it and like set them there after which thought of it for every week and like, issues like that. However I simply hung all of them with out pondering hardly in any respect. 

Emma: Oscar’s gonna break it. I’m gonna get my command strips out and get this executed.

Elsie: Yeah and it helped. So anyway, yeah, we wished to speak for a sec about artwork as a result of Emma was saying she preferred the way it was like a bizarre, it’s like bizarre artwork.

Emma: You’ve a mixture as a result of you could have what I’d take into account like tremendous artwork stuff and possibly it’s prints or possibly it’s an unique, however like issues that artists have made. Then you definitely even have like kiddo artwork out of your ladies, you could have household portraits, and then you definately even do like type of an eclectic model of household portraits. Some are such as you guys smiling on the digicam, however then there’s a lot of like extra candid feeling issues that I do know you simply took along with your telephone, like moments which can be taking place shortly so you need to like seize a photograph. It’s only a very large combine and I actually like that. Then you definitely’ll even put in bizarre issues, like at the very least two locations in your home, you could have these little like fortune cookies body which can be such as you’ll be receiving a name quickly. Was that from once you received the decision about Goldie? When Goldie joined the household? 

Elsie: Sure. 

Emma: That’s what I assumed. Yeah. I used to be like, it’s both Goldie or Nova, however I can’t keep in mind the story now. You even have like tiny little gold body for the precise fortune cookie that I discovered. 

Elsie: Oh my gosh, you observed my fortune cookie body.

Emma: Oh, I instantly was like, I’ve gotta deliver this up in some unspecified time in the future so she might put a hyperlink on the weblog as a result of I simply need to purchase it. That’s the one means I’ll keep in mind is that it’s like linked someplace that I can discover later once I keep in mind. It’s such a cute little body and I’ve a particular fortune cookie too. It’s like on my bulletin board in my workplace. And I used to be like, I’d like to put it in a tiny gold body. 

Elsie: I’ve purchased virtually all my artwork from Etsy so it’s not that it’s like something fancy. I preserve saying like, I wanna purchase a few originals. I feel that might be a superb subsequent step for me and I’d like to assist some painters and issues like that, however I haven’t executed that but. Most all the things that we’ve is within the below $50 vary or at the very least below 100 {dollars}. Etsy is the best artwork useful resource on the earth as a result of additionally an enormous quantity of the artwork that I’ve is the sort that you just purchase it as a obtain and it’s like $5 after which you possibly can print it in any dimension you need, which is so good as a result of typically I don’t know what dimension I need. 

Emma: You simply know you’re keen on the piece in your life. 

Elsie: Yeah. And I purchase a number of thrift retailer frames, so it’s useful to have the ability to like resize issues your self. I actually like that. I’d undoubtedly favor it to love having to choose the dimensions on their web site and get it mailed to you. So, yeah my favourite Etsy artist is called Janet Hill. So she’s the one with like the attention patch one and just like the man that’s smoking the pipe. Her stuff could be very Wes Anderson. She additionally wrote a novel, so she has two youngsters’s books. I really like her a lot. She’s undoubtedly identical to such a cool painter. So I’ve a bunch of hers after which let me assume a number of historic prints, like, did you see the print in Goldie’s room? I feel it’s from San Francisco. It’s a historic print of like, just about like a mansion, virtually a citadel constructed on the sting of the seashore. It’s tremendous cool and peculiar. 

Emma: She confirmed me her Elsa poster, however we didn’t get to the, we didn’t get to that, I suppose.

Elsie: Sure. Sure. She made a DIY Elsa. It’s three ft tall so we’ve that. 

Emma: It’s received a number of jewels on it. 

Elsie: Yeah, Elsa is life. So our daughters do a ton of artwork clearly so I simply attempt to like body as a lot as I can. In our kitchen, I simply received these frames from Amazon that flip up so you possibly can change the artwork anytime you need so I’m undoubtedly gonna hyperlink these as a result of I feel it’s good for the kitchen. Simply because such as you will be altering it always. For us, at the very least it’s the place we’ve the backpacks and we’re getting the varsity artwork out and all of that. So it’s identical to slap it within the body. You’ll be able to identical to, put one on prime of one other, on prime of one other in that body. And I feel that that’s actually cool as a result of it simply goes so quick and like the quantity of artwork that we’re accumulating is weird. 

Emma: Nicely, I really like that it’s like put the child artwork in amongst all the remainder of the artwork appropriately. So I like that. I additionally assume such as you undoubtedly have, like, your complete fridge is like lined with child artwork, which I feel appropriately, in fact, what else are fridges for. Additionally, I really feel like seeing them in frames identical to elevates it a bit bit which I actually love. So it’s like, I really like the fridge artwork and I feel everybody ought to try this. I’ve tons on mine, little footprint issues that Oscar’s executed on there, however I feel placing it in body typically is like actually particular and type of elevates it. I don’t know. I prefer it loads. 

Elsie: No, I feel you’re completely proper. It alerts that it’s like one thing you’re gonna preserve without end, which I feel is so particular. When you have youngsters, you perceive, like I really assume it’s simpler in actual time to choose those to place up than to build up this large archive of stuff after which have the strain of displaying it in a while after they’re older. So yeah, for me it really works finest to only type of like put it up. 

Emma: You already know, too as a result of I walked in your workplace and Elsie’s desk is like lined along with her work after which her youngsters work like, so it’s simply a lot like artwork all over the place, however instantly I noticed these tiny Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles that Nova had clearly made. And I instantly was like, these are unbelievable as a result of they’re like reduce out, 10 outta 10. And I used to be like, oh, Elsie, I noticed these Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles and she or he was like, oh, I’m framing these. I virtually thought they have been misplaced so it’s like, you realize, instantly once you’re like this one’s a framer, it’s going up instantly. 

Elsie: It’s true. You don’t even actually need to assume simply go along with your intestine.

Emma: You’ll know, the artwork tells you and that one stated cowabunga, put me in a body. Get it. Michaelangelo. 

Elsie: He’s a celebration dude. Yeah. Yeah. Oh my God, Nova’s blasting the Ninja Turtle’s theme track day by day. So she’s a celebration dude. Our home could be very cool. Anyway, I’m attempting to assume if there’s anything about artwork, however I’ll hyperlink, we’ve a few actually thorough weblog posts the place it’s like artwork for each single room and people have a number of artwork from my dwelling in them. Yeah. Yeah. Amassing artwork. That’s an awesome publish. So I’ll make sure and hyperlink to all of that, however I feel that simply breaking the seal and simply hanging stuff up is the best way to go.

Emma: You’ll be able to change it. 

Elsie: No, I’m like so relieved. I’d’ve spent so lengthy, however I identical to put the artwork up and it’s up now and it’s executed and in our hidden library, the entire partitions full and it simply feels, it’s not good and I might have overthought it extra and I might have been like my choosy self, however I feel it’s simply not value it with that type of factor. It’s higher to identical to do it and revel in it. And I feel, yeah, simply let your eyes, get used to it after which simply be like, that’s adequate.

Emma: Yeah. I feel too, taking the time to place up artwork in your home, no matter you want, no matter it’s you need, or household, images, no matter, simply stuff in your partitions. I feel it’s simply very inviting as a result of like we visited some mates after we received to Nashville for this journey. They’re each like very inventive, like a musician and a graphic designer they usually’re identical to actually cool. I’d by no means been of their home earlier than and naturally, that they had such an attention-grabbing curated, assortment of artwork on their partitions of like unique items and clearly items in all probability from mates and various things like that. And I felt myself strolling round their home, their artwork. I wish to snoop homes and I’ll be like, simply actually sincere with individuals about it like I’m gonna Snoop your home proper now and other people don’t care often. I simply assume like when you could have artwork up, it’s such as you’re inviting individuals to snoop. You’re like, I’ve displayed one thing. I would love you to come back into my eating room and take a look at the piece that I’ve placed on my wall or come on into our kitchen and see what I framed in right here or no matter. Like I simply really feel like one thing about it is rather like, go forward and look, I’ve put this on show so that you can take a look at and it’s identical to a really inviting ambiance and so I dig it. I really feel extra comfortable strolling round somebody’s home if they’ve a bunch of artwork up as a result of I really feel like I’m supposed to have a look at it and doubtlessly touch upon it and inform them how cool it’s or what piece I like or hear their story about the place they received it or no matter it’s like. So it’s a really enjoyable factor. 

Elsie: No, I fully agree. I really like that. That’s such a pleasant technique to put it and it makes me wanna hold artwork even sooner sooner or later in order that’s like actually encouraging. So yeah, hopefully, everyone seems to be like gonna hammer some holes in some partitions now after listening to this. That makes me glad to assume.

Emma: All proper, properly, we even have a subject request that we received from Instagram. So the subject is the right way to deal with a friendship breakup in your thirties. 

Elsie: I assumed this one was a very good query. We get questions like this gorgeous continuously. I feel it’s a reasonably widespread expertise. 

Emma: Yeah. Friendship in your thirties and past I feel, I imply, usually friendship in maturity, I feel will be totally different than it was like in highschool and faculty the place you’re simply always assembly new individuals and stuff like that. 

Elsie: I feel it’s very totally different. Okay. So for me, I used to be serious about this and I don’t essentially assume I’ve had a friendship breakup in my thirties, so I couldn’t consider a breakup however I’ve had fairly just a few friendships the place we simply kind of like misplaced contact. However for me, I satisfaction myself in having a excessive capability for being low upkeep the place like, I don’t have to speak to somebody for six months or a 12 months, however then we will catch up and like be synced again up actually shortly. And I wish to be that good friend for different individuals and I like mates like that for myself. Like so far as like the chums that I fell away from a bit bit, like, I don’t know. I type of simply assume it’s regular. I couldn’t say something unhealthy about it. It simply looks like life.

Emma: That’s type of what I feel as a result of even once I take into consideration often when individuals say the time period breakup they’re speaking about romantic relationships. So even like serious about that, I’m like, it was all the time a superb factor as a result of it led to the subsequent factor. Which isn’t to say like, so I don’t cherish previous issues. Like when you’ve got a friendship breakup, you’re in all probability nonetheless gonna like cherish the time you had collectively and all of that however you might simply be within the season for the subsequent factor like possibly somebody has moved or one thing of that nature. I don’t know. I don’t even actually assume it’s completely essential to have any type of sit down speak, however I suppose there are occasions you do must set boundaries and simply somebody isn’t getting it so you need to be a bit extra direct, however I’ve by no means actually had that, both somebody doing it to me or me needing to try this. So I’ve by no means actually had, I suppose, a friendship breakup both. I feel just like you, it’s like I’ve had some that, some relationships that it type of wax and wan or no matter or identical to, oh, we’re not that shut as a result of I observed they weren’t actually there for me throughout a tough time and all these different mates have been. You discover issues like that. I feel it’s simply type of like a, oh, properly, there you go. I don’t know. 

Elsie: Yeah, I suppose my recommendation is to attempt to consider it as making house, identical to anything in life, making house for one thing, for what’s subsequent, and likewise to only turn into snug with the concept some friendships are like finest in a season. I feel even along with your shut mates, you possibly can consider seasons the place you have been like, actually like shut and synced up, after which you possibly can consider different seasons the place you felt a bit bit distant like anybody would,. So I feel that it’s simply pure. It’s unhappy for certain particularly if you happen to received your emotions harm. I might perceive that. 

Emma: No, that sucks. 

Elsie: Yeah, however I feel possibly pondering of it as regular hopefully will assist as a result of like, I can’t even let you know what number of instances we’ve gotten a query like this. I do assume it’s as a result of so many individuals are experiencing it. For me on this time of my life, I’ve so many instances the place I simply really feel responsible as a result of I really feel like I simply don’t have loads to supply to different ladies. On the finish of working and being a mother, I’m depleted. Good phrase. I feel having grace for people who find themselves depleted can also be a very great factor. For those who can muster it as a result of I’d hate to assume that there could possibly be individuals who assume that I had a friendship breakup with them simply because I’m like going by a tough time. And that could possibly be too as a result of so many individuals are going by issues we don’t know on a regular basis. So, yeah, that’s a tragic one, however we’re sending you a hug for certain. Then once I say that, I really actually imply it each single time. So I hope the hug is acquired. 

Emma: Oh, additionally one final thing, each time I make new mates or I’m hanging out with somebody I don’t know that properly they usually appear to speak actually poorly about their outdated mates or somebody they’re not mates with anymore. Simply so you realize, anybody listening, I all the time discover that and it instantly, it does a bit alarm in my head the place I’m like, don’t inform this particular person something, don’t belief them. They’re gonna do the identical factor to you. 

Elsie: I even have had that have lately additionally and it’s unhappy as a result of I don’t assume that individuals know that that may be a crimson flag.

Emma: Yeah. That’s why I wished to say, it’s identical to, you’re not a nasty particular person for doing that. Typically you’re feeling like you’ll want to vent by one thing that was painful. I get that, however let me advocate remedy. It’s an awesome place to vent by issues that you’ll want to work by however if you happen to’re simply out type of like, mainly sh*t speaking somebody, simply so you realize if different individuals round you appear to not likely belief you as a result of they may be feeling such as you’re gonna try this to them as a result of they’re seeing you do it to a different particular person. 

Elsie: Nicely, I’d assume they for certain will.

Emma: I’d, if you happen to speak to me about somebody, I’ll be like, oh, I’m not gonna let you know something since you’re in all probability gonna try this to me once you really feel prefer it

Favourite Fast Dinners

Elsie: So our final section is household meals you can also make quick. They tie proper collectively. 

Emma: Trigger you realize what no person needs household meals that take without end. 

Elsie: Do you actually have a household meal that you just try this takes without end? 

Emma: Thanksgiving. 

Elsie: Okay. I used to be gonna say for me like pizza as a result of it’s a greater dedication as a result of you need to prep the dough.

Emma: I received three issues that we do at dwelling loads, and I’ll preface by saying my son’s at an age the place he does eat the dinner that we eat, however he goes to mattress at seven and he doesn’t eat all the things that we eat like he’s one. So basically, he has a dinner and we’ve a dinner. We’re not on the place but the place we type of all eat dinner collectively. We might be sooner or later and that sounds really actually cute and enjoyable. That’s simply not likely the season I’m in. So anyway, these are like three household meals that Trey and I make for simply us mainly after Oscar’s sleep and we wish it to be actually quick as a result of we’re actually hungry.

Elsie: That is smart. 

Emma: Okay. So the three issues are we make air-fried rooster wings which I’ve undoubtedly talked about on this podcast earlier than. So I’m sorry, however I really like them they usually’re on the weblog. We eat them at the very least as soon as every week, at the very least usually extra. Okay. So yeah, rooster wings. Then a number of instances we can have a cheeseboard dinner or charcuterie, I suppose as a result of it’ll have meat too. It’s not essentially fancy, each from time to time we’ll, we’re like we’re gonna have an at dwelling date time. We’re gonna get some fancy cheeses and fancy issues. Typically although, we’re like string cheeses on the board. Prefer it’s not that fancy, nevertheless it’s identical to meat and cheese and fruits and possibly some greens, however principally simply these issues and it’s identical to actually quick. Perhaps we pop popcorn. I don’t know, be happy to guage, no matter. So it’s that type of factor 

Elsie: if somebody’s judging you for popping popcorn, they’re within the flawed place.

Emma: I imply, I’m sorry for having a cheeseboard for dinner. I’m simply kidding. 

Elsie: No, nobody can choose you. I need popcorn to be in my dinner all the time. Particularly like when we’ve like household film night time, it kinda ruins your dinner and I find it irresistible.

Emma: I present up loads at my guide membership and it’s like, everybody eats dinner, like as we get there after which go into speaking. Lots of instances I’m simply consuming a bag of popcorn. 

Elsie: You deliver your individual popcorn? 

Emma: Yeah. Yeah. Nicely, I deliver my very own dinner.

Elsie: Does everybody deliver their very own dinner?

Emma: Yeah. And lots of people have like these cute little glass Tupperware and it’s like a complete meal or they’ve some type of good takeout. I simply present up with this bag of popcorn and typically an apple. One time, I simply bummed an apple off somebody as a result of I used to be like, I want I had an apple they usually have been like, right here you go. So I don’t have my life collectively.

Elsie: Oh my gosh. That’s humorous. 

Emma: Yeah. Okay. That wasn’t my third one. That was a bonus. My third one is stir fry. Which I even have a weblog publish about the right way to construct an awesome stir fry and it has mainly a stir fry meals pyramid. Anyway, I’ll hyperlink it. It’ll make sense once you see it, however I really like stir fry as a result of it could possibly come collectively actually quick and you’ll mainly use something you need to like make it occur. In order that’s very nice and you’ll change the flavors and yeah, so we love stir fry. We make that at the very least as soon as every week. 

Elsie: Good. Okay. I’ve mine. So I simply made a weblog publish for this one totchos which is tater tot nachos. So we had them at this restaurant in Nashville known as the Mockingbird and we love them. They’ve a brunch model and a dinner model so I assumed that might be enjoyable. This can be a actually good one for my youngsters as a result of they may help. It’s type of identical to placing issues on a sheet pan after which baking it. So it’s like one thing the place they may like assist unfold the stuff, pour the stuff. My four-year-old, just about her favourite meals is hash browns, just like the McDonald’s form the little hash brown. The little patty form that you just get at Dealer Joe’s. So tater tots should not all that totally different from that. So, yeah, we love a tater tot. I put one pot pasta, however actually it’s identical to, I simply make pasta actually. I simply make pasta on a regular basis, butter noodles, and garlic. Additionally, I actually like, for a Dealer Joe’s dinner, the ravioli is like my primary Dealer Joe’s meals as a result of you possibly can take it straight from the freezer to a boiling water to your plate in like 10 minutes. It’s so quick and you’ll preserve it without end, which I really like that, not as a lot strain to love use it shortly.

Emma: It’s attention-grabbing it’s in your freezer as a result of I feel often consider contemporary pasts, like within the fridge and also you would wish to make use of it like that week someday. 

Elsie: I freeze them and you’ll nonetheless warmth it up inside a couple of minutes. 

Emma: Nice mother hack. 

Elsie: Then I put chili like chili is chili. There’s nothing higher than chili. What’s subsequent? I put frozen dumplings as a result of dumplings are all the things to our household. So we just like the all the time pan it has just like the steamed baskets and you’ll double up the place there’s like two steamed baskets and it’s so cute. So you are able to do buns, like bow buns and pot stickers and typically we’ve shumai. So I get most, all of my frozen stuff from Dealer Joe’s additionally. They’re like frozen Asian meals part, it’s like fairly good and I find it irresistible. It really works properly for me proper now as a result of I simply can’t go to a bunch of shops.

Emma: Similar. Yeah. 

Elsie: Winner for dinner. That’s my final one. Nicely, I suppose that that’s all the things. Thanks a lot for listening. This week’s present notes are at abeautifulmess.com/podcast, and they are going to be very photograph heavy. I’m ending my excursions and sharing the home with you guys this season. So thanks a lot for following alongside and we’ll be again subsequent week.